It does not matter how old you are or how strong you are, being bullied is a debilitating and traumatic experience. It can happen at work, school, church, within your family, or in your friend circle. Bullying can also happen on social media — sometimes by complete strangers.
IF YOU ARE BEING BULLIED AND ARE CONTEMPLATING SUICIDE OR SELF HARM, PLEASE DIAL 911 FOR HELP.
ADDITIONALLY, DO WHATEVER YOU CAN TO GET AWAY FROM THE PERSON OR PEOPLE WHO ARE BULLYING YOU. GET PROFESSIONAL HELP, IF NECESSARY.
Bullying can originate from a single person or a larger group. It can be occasional and intermittent — or constant and consistent. Bullying can be verbal or can occur via social media, or it can be physical and involve threats and altercations. It can also be sexual.
Being bullied can erode a person’s self-esteem and cause them to become depressed and suicidal. Bullying is especially harmful and threatening to children who are developing their identities and trying to establish a place among their peers. It can be devastating to a career, a marriage, a friendship, or a family.
Using this process to release being bullied is similar to that of releasing trauma due to an abusive relationship. If the bullying has occurred over a long period of time, you will need to break this trauma down into five-year increments during the release.
When you release being bullied, it is helpful to focus on how, who, and why. For example, you may be being bullied by someone at work. The bullying may occur during meetings, in emails, in the break room, or even while sitting at your desk. In the second step of this process you would say, “I release the energetic connection to and the feelings of trauma related to being bullied by (bully’s name) when we’re in meetings and when we take breaks and when they send emails to my coworkers.” Record your response in your journal.
Three days later, you can release the reasons why you’re being bullied, and the way being bullied makes you feel. For example, in step two of the release you would say, “I release the energetic connection to and the feelings of trauma related to being bullied because I’m not part of the in-crowd at work, and how discouraged and humiliated I feel, and how I dread going to work every day because of being bullied by (bully’s name).”Record your response in your journal.
If the bullying is occurring on social media, it is imperative that you unplug from wherever the bullying is originating from, if possible. For instance, if it’s happening on Facebook, stop logging in to your account until the situation blows over. Sometimes social media bullying only lasts a few days and you can stop logging in until it has stopped.
If bullying is occurring on social media platforms you can:
- Stay off social media
- Delete their posts and their access to you
- Block them (Remember: a bully has to get to you in order to bully you!)
- Report them if you can (especially if it involves threats)
If you are a parent, be aware of what your child is being exposed to on social media. An intense amount of bullying can happen to a child in a single day. Talk to your kids about bullying and monitor your child’s activities on social media. Teach them to report bullying (even if they see it being done to someone else) and to tell you if they feel bullied by anyone in any way.